Will The Men of the Natural Fertility Revolution Please Stand Up?

It is becoming increasingly clearer with time and research that the magic birth control Pill sold to women as the answer to all sexual inequity is merely a cancer causing, stroke starting, problem masking, and fertility decreasing mess of a “medication”. It hasn’t helped women become any more self actualized and in reality has created a strange dissonance for many modern women about how to handle and accept the natural functions of their healthy bodies.
Many women are slowly waking up and deciding that they’d rather plan their pregnancies naturally and work with their bodies instead of suppressing them. There is a slow, but steady growth of women who are insisting on following their cycles of natural fertility and using the signposts of fertility to plan their sexual encounters. That’s great, but what about the men?
After all it takes two….or does it?

When the Pill was first developed (by men) it became evident that women would only buy into this product and use it if  they felt that it was empowering and gave them the control and independence that so many women at that time were craving. So it was sold to the Women’s Movement as a key ingredient to their end goal of raising up strong, independent women.  The adoption of the Pill as a women’s issue placed family planning squarely into the hands of women and men were granted a pass on fertility awareness.
Men no longer had any obligation to pay attention to or honor the natural fertility of their female partner because, well, that was a woman’s issue. If she decided to use the Pill and suppress her fertility, that was her problem. And if she didn’t and she accidentally got pregnant, well that was also her problem. As the next logical step in handing over all responsibility of fertility management was also handing over all responsibility in pregnancy management; men were now completely removed from the discussion about the creation of life through the sexual act.
And many men seem fine with that.
We see groups of men like BroChoice and the boys of the Red Pill movement who seem perfectly content to openly use women’s bodies. With the protections of birth control and abortion on demand to keep them free from all responsibilities that the consequences of their actions would naturally bring they are free to share tips about manipulating women into abortions and shaming women for not having sex with them after buying them dinner. They expect women to accommodate male fertility by suppressing or destroying their own. They take little responsibility for the fact that they are fertile 100% of the time, while their female partner would naturally only be fertile about 4-7 days per month. They place all the weight for their physical wants on women because sex is not about respecting their partner, caring for her, or getting to know her as a unique person anyhow. Why in the world would they care what her typical menstrual cycle looks like or want to understand if she’s even fertile at all at the time of their encounter?
These men are the result of the expectation for women to suppress their fertility. They are weak, indulgent, self-centered, and entitled. And sadly there are so many of these guys walking around now that many women don’t even know that there is a different breed; a different class of men that exists. Real MEN.
Let’s paint a different picture now of men. Men that are capable of learning about signposts of female fertility; things like cervical mucus, basal body temperatures, breast tenderness, etc. Men that can apply these signs to their decision making process concerning sex. Say what?! Men capable of making a decision about sex? You mean there is a decision involved? Not just an assumption that if they can they will? Men that actually might have the opportunity for sex yet possess the ability to DECIDE whether or not to have it based upon the fertility of their partner???
I tell you, they DO exist. Ladies, take heart. These are the Men of the Natural Fertility Revolution.
They are self-disciplined, respectful, smart, intuitive, STRONG, discerning, selfless, loving, and sacrificial men. They are team players and see their partners as just that; a person with whom to make decisions about their shared fertility and work together toward a common goal. These men are a cut above the rest. They do not expect others to change themselves biologically to accommodate their sexual desires. They expect to respect the shared fertility that comes with being human persons in their child-bearing years. They are not afraid of a little abstinence and willingly make this sacrifice for the good of their relationship and the good of their partner. They are real men.
These men respect that women come with the gift of fertility. Yes, the gift. Not the burden. You see, real men can see that women are incredibly built to handle the stress and strain of carrying a new life into this world. They see female fertility as an attribute and something to be fearfully respected. They may still fear the amazing power of female fertility, but they never run from their fears. They face it head on and use their own strengths to work with their partner. And when they do they often find that the women in their lives end up feeling cherished and honored instead of manipulated and used. They experience rates of divorce that are almost unheard of and still enjoy the efficacy rate of the Pill in avoiding pregnancy.
I have been so lucky to meet many of these men. They are not as rare as most would make you believe, but they do sometimes need encouragement to develop into the men they are capable of being. They have not been told how great they can be and have been told by society that things like caring about women’s health is not their business. Well it is. It’s all our business because well, it just is. Women’s health is where the future of our species comes from. If we don’t handle it with care and understanding we risk our very existence.
So men, please do not fall for the lies that you are obsolete in the fertility discussions. Get in there and show women you are capable of being a MAN. Offer to chart her temperature every morning. Put the stickers on her chart. Tell her that you think her cervical mucus is sexy. Ok, well maybe just tell she is lovely and offer to support her body to function as naturally as possible. When you step up and honor women the way we were naturally created there is going to be a culture shift that takes place. Men and women will actually stop seeing each other as the enemy and see the contributions of one another as valuable and necessary. Women won’t feel a need to put men in their place by doing everything men can do because you will have already admitted that there is nothing greater than our ability to bear new life. You respecting us the way we naturally are will truly change the world. Because that is what real men do best.


Hailing from central Minnesota, Leah has been working with young people and mothers since 2000. Leah founded The Guiding Star Project in 2011 after feeling called to help women and families by providing resources that honor Natural Law and promote wholistic feminism. She seeks to create Guiding Star Centers to serve as beacons of hope, joy, and truth — safe havens that uphold human dignity in all stages of life. Leah lives in Minnesota with her family and works as a board-certified lactation consultant. As a mother to seven children, she has a special interest in supporting young women as they transition into their roles as new mothers.

14 thoughts on “Will The Men of the Natural Fertility Revolution Please Stand Up?”

  1. Domingo Encarnacion

    I just want to say that is about time to ask about weather man also know that they play an important part to help women to opt to follow the natural planning instead of any other method,but that’s not all,there should be men’s reunion in order to discuss and understand women in order to help them in making important desition about their fertility and the importance of giving birrh. To follow the natural planning is not just a desition of a woman,but of a man and woman.

  2. When you continuously refer to men or women participating in sexual behavior as “partners” instead of “husband” or “wife”, you perpetuate the permissive attitude toward promiscuous sex and alternate “marriage” arrangements.

  3. I’m a man, and I deal with women as the owner of Ladycomp Australia, distributing Fertility Monitors across the country to women who are sick of the pill etc.
    I totally and utterly agree with this article.
    In fact, I read somewhere, just can’t remember where and obviously not widely publicised, durr, that couples who do Natural Fertility Management have a far better sex life, far better success rate at NOT falling pregnant, and far better success rate at getting pregnant when they want to, AND it’s because 2, that’s TWO people are now doing Fertility Management, not just 1, that’s ONE!!!!
    And they are Healthier, and Happier.
    So, great article!

  4. It’s hard to believe that for so many years women have bought into this. All of those feminists never once asked themselves why the burden was always on the female. And they’re still pushing the fake concern for “women’s health”.

  5. I learned about natural family planning 15 years ago when I was joining the Catholic Chuech. At that time the divorce rate for a married couple following natural family planning was 2%!!!! Why would anyone not want to follow this common sense!

  6. I’m very encouraged to see this turn of events in our culture. The flippant use and subsequent abuse of sex in our culture is discouraging, and the consequences are devastating to say the least. I’ve never engaged in sexual acts myself, but I am constantly bombarded with pressure to give in as well as the fear that I will suffer from yet another disease as a consequence of my possible partner’s past.
    However, one thing that NFP does not acknowledge is the rise of women with PCOS, endometriosis, and other fertility issues that BC pills DO help treat. While I’m not a fan of the Pill (and they also do nothing for me), there are many women in the US who DO get help from them. Beyond that, what can be done for women like me who can’t have a menstrual cycle on their own? What, we’re just supposed to abstain from any and all romantic relationships and never ever have sex, even though some of us (I know I am) are called to be in a marriage relationship?

  7. …and when that is wrapped into the covenant of marriage, you have described God’s plan for bringing children into the world. A man who can not exercise self-control and postpone his desires long enough to wait for marriage, not just wait til the next non-fertile day, is someone a woman shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyways. Connect the dots.

  8. Not all women want to conceive and have kids, it doesn’t make them selfish or tramps, and it mean that every man who respects THAT choice to NOT have kids is a ‘self-indulgent’ douche.

  9. NFP does not acknowledge is the rise of women with PCOS, endometriosis, and other fertility issues that BC pills DO help treat

  10. Sorry, pressed wrong key.
    Regarding your comment that “NFP does not acknowledge is the rise of women with PCOS, endometriosis, and other fertility issues that BC pills DO help”, IS NOT ACCURATE. As a Billings Ovulation Method Instructor, we deal with women who have these problems/difficulties on an ongoing basis. Women who have problems with their cycles need the proper medical help to get at the underlying cause of the problem and not use a band-aid solution such as the Pill, that is according to Dr. Mary Martin, Ob/Gyn in Oklahoma.
    You also said “…what can be done for women like me who can’t have a menstrual cycle on their own?…” The first thing to be done is to get you charting what is actually happening to your body then have your medical professional (or if you are more comfortable going to someone else, someone we know) test you … to find out what is causing the problems. Then the appropriate treatment would begin. I hope this helps.

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